Eros from The Four Loves

According to C.S. Lewis, Eros is the love between two opposite sexes - love between male and female. Eros wants the Beloved not the pleasure you get from sex, which in this case is referred to as Venus. It says that the one in love have no time to think about sex, because he is too busy thinking of the person. "The fact that she is a woman is far less important than the fact that she is herself." Then C.S. Lewis goes on explaining how should we view Venus between two people in love. Venus can happen within Eros, but  Eros is in its noblest and purest state if Venus is reduced to the minimum. Another interesting thing that C.S. Lewis mentioned was that "In Eros at times we seem to be flying; Venus gives us the sudden twitch that reminds us we are really captive balloons." He then moves on to the danger of Eros. The danger is not that the lovers will idolize themselves but it is that the lovers will idolize Eros, the love. Let's take the example of Romeo and Juliet. These two lovers fell in love and they do anything to be together. They idolized Eros and see what happens at the end.. They both die. And what could they say about it. "Love made us do it." These two lovers had loved Eros more than anything else - more than God. Lovers are not supposed to neither idolize each other nor idolize Eros. "To be in love is both to intend and to promise lifelong fidelity. Love makes vows unasked.... it has overleaped the massive wall of our selfhood." Once after marriage, the husband is then to love his wife as if Christ loved the Church and give his life for her. This doesn't mean that the husband is greater than the wife. "Marriage is most like a crucifixion; whose wife receives most and gives least... For the Church has no beauty but what the Bridegroom gives her; he does not find, but makes her, lovely."